One important thing that I have been witnessing lately is that people are unable to manage their anger! Now it's like they have short temper or something or it's because they can't have their cigarette or their coffee, so they just release their anger, and become very furious at you and make you feel like it's the end of the world. Allahu Akbar!
Now how can we solve this issue? We can solve this issue by knowing that when you do not control your anger at Ramadan, what happens? You are wounding your fast up. I am not saying that it's not accepted, it may be accepted but you are wounding it up just like you are bringing a man and you start smacking him around until he has bruises all over his face and you can see the blood everywhere and all that. Same thing with fasting!
Okay, now if this is a problem then there must be a solution! The solution is to follow the tools of the Prophet Alayhi salatu wa salam! The Prophet (peace and blessing be upon him) Muhammad, he gave us tools, he gave us ways to deal with anger, to manage anger! And one way is to say, 'A'uju billahi minash Shaytanir Rajim' 'I seek refuge with Allah from the devil.'
As soon as you get angry, when you see somebody coming to you using bad language or saying that, 'your wife is a so and so' or 'your mother is so and so' and you get really furious, you remember that time in 2006 World Cup when Zidan head-butted that person, you remember that because that man came to him and said, 'your mom! Your mom! Your mom!' but then you calm down and you remember the Prophet Alyhi Salatu wa salam, what he said and what he prescribed us as a medication. When you are angry, if you are standing up, sit down! And if you are sitting down, lie down! When you are angry, if you are standing up and you are still angry, sit down! And if you are still angry when you are sitting down, lie down! This was stated by the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), it is one effective way to deal with anger. Deal with it! Deal with anger! Don't escape from it! If you are angry, you can let other people know you are angry, it's okay. You have to acknowledge your anger and you have to tell yourself, 'Okay, now I am angry, what should I do?' And you say, "Aujubillah minash Shaytanir rajim" and you follow the path of Prophet Alaihe salatu wa salam the tools that he shared with us. This way you will be on the safe side and your fasting will not get wounded. In fact, it will be like really clear and clean and it will be something accepted from the Almighty Allah Azaau jal in full! You want it fully accepted from Allah then manage your anger and be straight with Allah!
The Prophet Alaihe salatu wa sallam also said, 'The strong person isn't that person who is able to wrestle everybody, the strong person is that person who is able to manage his anger during the difficult times.' During the difficult times, he is able to manage his anger. He is able to hold it in and not release it. He holds it in a positive way! Not in a negative way, not denying that he is angry. You know that you are angry and you hold it in and you release it positively. In a smooth way, possibly with a smile or something. This way you are the strong person.
- by Ustadh Rayan Arab
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