Do you know that if you have bad qualities, most probably you got it from your peers, those you mixed with! Sometimes they might even be your family members, sometimes even your parents! So if you have a bad quality, you probably got it from somewhere, but you didn't get it from Allah, you got it from the devil! The devil came to you in the form of possibly, most probably your friends and your peers! And sometimes this devil comes in the form of your best friend. May Allah protect us! Sometimes the devil comes using the mouth of really someone who is very close to you! Satan is very sharp. He's very intelligent! So sometimes the upbringing in home is very very good but the school you send your child to they, learn an accent from that school which is totally unacceptable! They begin to speak slang! They begin to swear, they begin to cheat and steal. All that is from the school we need to be careful which schools we send our children to! We need to be careful what type of friends our children mix with, and bigger than that, more important than that...how, what type of people we mix with ourselves. So Allah (subahaanahu wa ta'ala) says in Suratul Furqan regarding the one who did not have good company... Definitely on the day of qiyaama, they will regret and say, 'ya Allah! This person whom I have associated with...my friend my, bosom buddy, they made me forget you, ya Allah and definitely Satan was very deceiving to me ya Allah.' Now let me inform you...when a person is smoking, 9 times out of 10, they've learnt it from the people they've mixed with! When a person is on drugs, 9 times out of 10, it is from people they associated with! When a person is an adulterer, 9 times out of 10, they've learnt it from the company they had! When a person does not come for salaah, 9 times out of 10, it is because that is the trend around the people they mix with. When a person is an alcoholic, 9 times out of 10, it is because those whom he or she is with is also like that! When a person has a bad mouth, it's also the same and that is why rehabilitation is a waste of time if you yourself do not want to help yourself! Because I promise you, a person who is on drugs, a person who is an alcoholic, a person who has any bad habit, it is upto to you to change. The whole world can want to rehabilitate you for ever and ever but if that quality is still in your heart it is a waste of time and money for everybody to be worried about you! May Allah (subahaanahu wa ta'ala) protect us! And this is why Allah says if you want to save yourself, the first thing you need to do, change your company totally!
Totally...every one of them! Change them!
If you are a bad person on drugs, cut out the whole friendship and parents of those who are on drugs, let me inform you, you might want to change the suburb and the city you are living in, in order to protect your son or your daughter! You might want to go into a remote town so that your children can abstain from those they mixed with! It will do you a ton of good even though your income might have decreased, you will save your children. That's the important of locality you live in, the importance of it...and how serious it is! Your suburb, the area you live in, be careful, make sure you choose it properly! You rather live in a slum where people around you all go to the masjid. That is one of the biggest plans of Satan, is he comes to you through your company! Your company, your company, your company and this is why we are taught when you want to know someone, don't look at them...just look at the people they mix with and close the file! That's it! Someone who is pious and someone who is a drunkard...they cant move together! Really! May he protect our offspring from all these bad habits!
By Mufti Ismail Menk
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