"Whats The Problem With Having Friends Of The opposite Gender If My Intentions Are Pure? How Many Of You Have Ever Seen the Clip WHY GUYS AND GIRLS CANT BE FRIENDS? Raise Your Hands You Need To Watch It, I Promise You Its Not A Sheikh, Its Not Gonna Be A Guy With Big Beard Is Gonna Tell You, Why Guys and Girls Cant Be Friends. It Was Actually An Experiment On A College Campus by A Non Muslim, So Basically He Asked The Guys: Do You Ever Think About That Person In A Sexual Way or Things Of That Sort And He Asked The Girls Same Question, So All Of Them Said: NO, OFCOURSE WE CAN BE FRIENDS & WE DONT THINK THAT WAY Then Whenever He Had The Guys Alone, He Asked Them The Same Question: DO YOU THINK GUYS AND GIRLS CAN BE FRIENDS? All Of Them Said No and All Of The Girls Were Like "Yah Ofcourse" Then He Asked The Girls, He Said: Well Do You Think That If You Open Yourself Upto A Relationship With Him, That He'd Be Willing To Engage In, Relationship With You, They Were Like "Oh Yah Ofcourse" and So The Point Was At The End Of The Experiment, Was Guys and Girls Cant Be Friends.
Ofcourse In That Regards, The Point Is and Im Not An Advocate, I Think That, SubhanAllah Sheikh Sulaiman Udhe Once Said Something Very Powerful, He Said If You Close The Doors To That Which Is Permissable, People Will Break The Doors People Will Break Them and People Will Transgress, There Was Communication and Interaction Between, Genders Of The Time Of The Prophet (s.a.w) but It Was Respectful, It Was Limited To What Was Necessary It Was Not, You Know SubhanAllah We Teach Split Personality, Seriously Its Like the Sisters Comes To The Masjid, And Shes An Alien, Right? but Whenever Shes Outside Mashallah Shes A Fair Game, Thats Hypocrisy, We Should Learn To Be Consistant, In Essence We Were Forbidden From Khalwa, We Were Forbidden From Being Alone With One Another, We Were Forbidden From Being Flirtation, From Exposing Anything From The Hijab, Guys and Girls, Guys Youve Got A Hijab To, Im Just Letting You Know, You Also Have To Observe Certain Limits So Dont Think You Can Post Whatever Pictures You Want To Post To Khalwa, Being Alone, Ciber Khalwa The Chat, FB Chat, All This Smiley Faces and Things Of That Sort, "I Think You Look Really Good In Your Jersey Today" and Whatever It Was, All Of That Is Not Allowed Either, Now Why Is It? What If My Intentions Are Pure? and This Is Something I Really Wanna Address From The Makas Of Shariah, From The Objectives Of Divine Legislation, Allah (swt) Adresses, Norms Allah Does Not Address Exceptions, The Shariah Is Based Upon Norms, Not On Exception If Guys, If You Think You Can Be With A Girl and Shes Just My Cousin, Shes My Really Good Friend, I Dont Really Feel That Way Towards Her, You Are Not The Norm, You Are The Exception The Legislation Will Not Be Based On Exception, WIll Be Based On Norms.
Just A Month Ago I Had A Sister That Took One Of My Classes That Told Me That She Was With Her Male Cousin, Alone In The Car, He Used To Drop Her Of To School Everyday For 2 Years and All Of A Sudden He Groped Her, They're Both Masjid Goers, She Didnt Know How To Deal With It, She Said I Never Expected It I Never Thought Of Him That Way but Obviously He Was Thinking Of Me That Way, Thats The 1st Thing Wrong With The Question "My Intentions Were Pure" How Can You Know The Intetion Of The Other Person? You Cannot Know The Intention, And Let Me Tell You Something Sisters, Guys Play Alot Of Games, No Offense Men, Brothers Just Cover Your Ears We Are Not Who You Think We Are Sometimes, As Long As A Man Is Still Biologically Man, He Still Is Attractive To A Women Ok? Unless He's Undergone Some Procedure or Something Like That, He's Still A Man, He Still Likes Women, He Still Likes Sisters, So Allah Addresses The Norms, Not The Exceptions, Maybe You Can Control Your Self but Not Everyone Can"
By Sheikh Omar Suleiman
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